Are you a #perfectionist?
Let’s find out if perfectionism is an issue for you. Here
are a few statements for you to consider (retrieved September 19, 2012 from the Centre for Clinical Interventions):
True
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Somewhat True
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Somewhat False
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False
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Nothing good comes from making mistakes
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I must do things right the first time
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I must do everything well, not just the things I know
I’m good at
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If I can’t do something perfectly then there is no point
even trying
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I rarely give myself credit when I do well because
there’s always something more I could do
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Sometimes I am so concerned about getting one task done
perfectly that I don’t have time to complete the rest of my work.
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If you have answered most of the above questions with True
or Somewhat True, then perfectionism might be something you want to work on.
The problem with striving for perfection is we end up
never feeling good enough. As a result, we miss out on enjoying life because
our focus is on getting things done or trying to look like we’ve got it
together. Dr.
Scott Barfoot of Dallas Theological Seminary points out, “Perfectionism is
the mental habit of formulating ideal standards that we demand ourselves to
meet in order to prove to ourselves, to others, and to God our worth.”
Unfortunately, it all boils down to our own self-worth. Perfectionist thinking
says, “If I’m perfect then I am worth loving.” Peel back the layers, we find
shame. “If you saw me for who I really am then you wouldn’t love me.” So, we
work harder and try to perfect ourselves. Dr. Barfoot explains, “Perfectionism
is at the root of a works-based faith.”
We were created for love and belonging. But the more we perfect the more
we miss out on connecting and loving one another.
Watch this 5 minute video of Brené Brown talking about
perfection.
Is this hitting home for you? The Centre for Clinical Interventions has a great 9 module self-help series called Perfectionism in Perspective. If you struggle with perfectionism, I encourage you to work through the series.